Judging or Loving

The year 2020 has found all of us in many situations we have not necessarily imagined. I like many have struggled at many levels. People seem more divided than ever. How do we love when we disagree with one another? This is the big question. This has been a longtime struggle for me, maybe it has been for you as well. There can be several reasons for this as for me I believe insecurity in who I am is the root. My desire to be right so I can feel ok about me drives this at times. As I become more confident in who I am and more importantly whose I am I am more tolerant of others. We feel differently about things for multiple reasons because we have different life experiences so what do we do? Maybe it is helpful if we try and see the others point of view. In many situations we can honor the other person by doing the things that make them more comfortable. Put their needs before ours if it is not harmful to ourselves. When I find myself taking hard stand and judging others heart, I need to take a step back. I think different opinions become judging when we begin to think we know the other persons heart. I have been learning this thanks to my wife and others. I never realized how much I have done this throughout my life until recently. You cannot fix something if you do not know it is broken. I am learning to ask more questions which allows us to hear someone’s heart. We are all wounded which drives us to do and say things daily. I am confident if you and I will nurture our wounds first we will see better how to help each other. We will be more tolerant and love better. Before we assume, we know what is in someone’s heart let us examine ours. I would love to hear from you send me an email or call me we can chat.
 
Happy Thanksgiving
Kevin